The His House for Her supportive housing model has been inspired by my personal experience with Jesus. When I accepted him as my Savior at the age of 19, I had no idea what it looked like to be in a relationship with him. I certainly didn’t understand his unconditional love for me. In fact, it wasn’t until my late 30s that I had to totally rethink my faith because I realized it consisted of a list of dos and don’ts that I couldn’t keep no matter how hard I tried. Although I was married to a wonderful man, had two wonderful daughters, and had everything that should have made me happy, I was miserable. It was this realization that started me on a journey that helped me reduce faith to four concepts:
You see, I had been looking at Jesus through the distorted lens of my disappointments with myself and others. I had come to view Jesus the same way I viewed myself and others. He was unmerciful, unforgiving, and only cared about his rules, and I couldn’t have been more wrong! In fact, I am extremely thankful to have so much proof of how wrong I was.
Helping women pursue Jesus and healing to learn what I have learned is my deepest passion. The guidelines of His House for Her will include best practices, but also establish a nurturing environment of belonging, safety, and love that will encourage that pursuit. My experience with Jesus assures me that this is what living in a house with him would be like, and this is what I want to share with women who need it the most.
I love the 12 Steps! After 10 years of doing my best to practice their principles in all my affairs I simply love them because they work. They give me a clearly defined method to deal with anything when I feel out-of-control. I am particularly fond of the way I was introduced to the steps through Walking the 12 Steps with Jesus Christ. I’m also particularly fond of the way that recovery program emphasizes that I am powerless without him.
Although I have held this dream of a nurturing, supportive home for women for at least 13 years, I admit that I am powerless to carry it out without Jesus. I am not kind enough, loving enough, nor smart enough to pursue this dream without him for it is he who has been preparing me for this my whole life.
– Renee Arnett